Millennial women – more commonly known as the female’s of Generation Y.
Don’t let our fragrant perfume, feminine dresses, high heels and lady-like status fool you. We are a force to be reckoned with. We are game contenders. In work, life and love.
So what is a millennial women? We are a new breed. We are ambitious and dedicated. We are focused and driven. We always want more. And as a result we are pushing ourselves harder than ever before.
We are literally changing the world – or at least trying to. According to the 2014 Millennial Impact Report, 92% of millennials are using their skills in companies they feel are making a difference in the world.
As the goddess and millennial women herself Beyonce has declared, “who runs the world? Girls!”
Studies show it’s the millennial generation who have a higher risk of mental illnesses like anxiety and depression. Trying to navigate the murky waters that are work, life and happiness balance is as we know – not easy.
It’s no wonder we are experiencing what’s been referred to as ‘Millennial Burnout Syndrome’. Balance and self kindness has been dubbed the key to all our problems and the one giant flaw in our otherwise upward trajectory towards greatness. So how do we find it?
You probably will scoff at the idea. You hardly have time to go on a real date let alone on one with yourself. But really, try it.
A mid week coffee date with yourself is always nice. Go to your favourite cafe and order your favourite coffee. Be a little crazy – order a shot of caramel. A muffin even. Spoil yourself. Bring a book. Lie in the sun.
If coffee’s not your thing why not take an afternoon to unwind after work. Cancel your personal training session (one missed session is not going to kill you, trust me) and stay at home. Shut the blinds. Turn off ALL your electronic devices (hey maybe don’t put away all of them, insert winkface). Pour yourself a glass of wine, or 3 and listen to some music. Cook yourself your favourite dish or order in from a nice restaurant (not some crappy take out rubbish, you’re better than that). Treat yourself the way you’d want a real date to treat you. You’re worth it.
Tip: If you treat it like an important meeting with a client that way you won’t find an excuse to get out of it. Pencil it in your diary. Make it fun, write ‘appointment with Gary. Highlight it. Then highlight it again. It’s an appointment you should keep. Don’t feel guilty about making this time for yourself. You don’t even have to tell anyone – not your significant other, friends, or your kids – not if you don’t want to. For all anyone knows you have an extremely important meeting. Which isn’t exactly a lie..
Don’t allow criticism to overwhelm you
With Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, email and every form of social media we are constantly bombarded with messages – not all of which are nice.
Criticism is unavoidable – whether it’s coming from outside sources or internally. But what you can control is how you take it, and what you do from there.
You can’t please everyone and you can’t do everything. Once you make peace with that, it will become a lot easier to be kind to yourself when these situations do come up.
Slow down and smell the roses
Generation Y seem to have this thing were we need to be in a constant state of movement and I don’t mean literally. We become increasingly frustrated, anxious and down on ourselves if we aren’t constantly climbing the ladder (in all aspects of our life). We feel we need to be in a constant state of achievement. If we aren’t – we are failing. It can be that black and white. But it simply isn’t true. Good things can take time. They don’t just happen over night. Remember that next time you’re beating yourself up.
Tip: Slow down. Even if that means hiding in the office toilet cubicle for five minutes and taking a deep breath. Take a moment. Remember to acknowledge all the things you have achieved rather than focusing so much on everything you have left to do. Be happy with what you have by working towards what you want.
At the end of the day it’s about allowing yourself these indulgences (that, newsflash, aren’t really indulgences at all) they are necessary and a sanity saviour. You’ll thank yourself in the long run.
So from one millennial women to another – treat yo yourself.